human sexual desires / increase female desire

Scientists have finally got a grip on our deepest sexual desires - by looking at what people type into Google.
They have examined one billion online sex-related searches from around the world to find out what users click on when no one else is looking.

The findings have been published in a book called A Billion Wicked Thoughts, co-authored by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam. The pair hope it will prove there is no such thing as sexual deviance as almost nothing is seen as out of bounds.

The survey is so vast it is viewed by many experts as the most complete analysis of human sexual desires.

Among the findings are the fact straight men prefer heavier women to thinner ones and find feet erotic.
They also enjoy a wide variety of erotic images, including bizarrely both elderly women and transsexuals.
Meanwhile straight women enjoy reading about and watching romances between two men, but only when the focus is on emotion and not sex.
Gay men and straight men were found to have the same favourite body parts, which in order are chests, buttocks then feet.

Surprisingly, search engine results from Dogpile, which provided the search data from Google, Yahoo! and Bing, said almost 80 per cent of internet searches were made up of 20 interests, ranging from youth, to cheerleaders.

Mr Ogas told the New York Post: 'Sex therapists haven't known which interests are common and which are rare,'
'We probably now know more than ever before.'
Doctors said the findings may now help reassure patients who think what they are interested in is perverse or disturbed, when it may actually be quite common.
Information from the search also found men fantasise about group sex more than women, and picture more men than women in the action.
Straight men prefer to watch amateur porn online and domination and submission is popular among straight women and gay men. Gay men also enjoy watching straight porn.

Experts think because porn is so readily available on the internet it may be helping human desire evolve as billions of men and women log-on more and more.


Prior to the internet boom there were less than 90 porn magazines but now an estimated 2.5million porn sites have been blocked.

However, Donald Symons, a pre-eminent evolutionary psychologist in America, thinks the survey does not necessarily prove people find the images arousing and they may just be searching out of curiosity.

Others point out that there is no way of knowing what motivated any of the searches.


Dr Symons told the New York Post: 'Ogi is convinced that when people are searching for things, it's primarily for sexual arousal. I'm not so sure about that. If there was a porn star with three breasts - I bet there would be a zillion hits. Would that be a sign men were suddenly aroused by that? I think not.'
The book's authors however, argue that the study does prove a sexual desire as they noticed people were spending money on subscriptions and visiting the sites over and over again, proving they are not just curious.

Talking dirty / Talk your way

Though most people consider it a turn off, dirty talk is quite a powerful stimulant to turn on your partner. So why do many people get turned off by it? Simply because this talk is usually associated with the kind of stuff one hears in a porn flick. However, the reality is that being vocal about your wants and needs and morever, about whether your partner's actions are satisfying you or not are essential for a healthy and happening sex life. Remember, dirty talk is not just about the raunchy stuff, being romantic and sensual is the key to doing it right.


That thing you do: Sure your partner wants to please you in bed, but if he/she isn't doing something right or is doing something that hurts you, that's going to be a big turn off and absolute deterrant to the act. Hence, telling him/her about what turns you on, what kind of action you crave, your deepest sexual fantasies is a good habit. Also, even in the course of the act, be sexily vocal about the actions that please you. Remember, your partner isn't a mind reader and unless you talk about it, he/she won't know if they are doing something wrong.


No you don't have to engage in sex talk everyday, whispering sweet nothings to your partner can also do the trick just as effectively. Call your partner up during work hours and whisper your 'action packed' plans for the evening. Even if you are assigning your partner a chore like picking up something from the market, talk softly and seductively enough for him/her to be able to feel your breath on his/her ear .


Talking dirty isn't about sounding crass, vulgar and cheap, it's about making a sensual and teasing verbal contact with your partner. Talk your way through the act and watch how he/she responds with added enthusiasm. Touch his/her lips with your fingertips telling them to meet you in the bedroom. Sit your partner down for a seductive striptease and tell them exactly what you are planning to do. Things like this will go a long way to up the level of action between the sheets.


Those who indulge in it will rave about how a bit of roleplay once in a while does wonders to spice the action up a notch or two. Make a list of roles that both of you can dress, talk and act. Use your role to the best of your advantage and order your partner to do the things you want him/her to do to you. Be firm and confident and use terms like 'You have to do everything I say', 'I'll be in the bedroom, meet me there', 'What about a shower together'.

kissing feels good

Sure, kissing feels good. But it's also an evolutionary advantage. Now a new book explains the science behind passionate lip-locks, and what they tell us about how men and women approach romantic relationships.

The precise origins of kissing are unknown. But some scientists hypothesize that the practice evolved from feeding rituals between animal mothers and their young, wherein mothers would chew and break down food before passing it directly to their offspring by mouth. Out of that gesture grew a universal sign of love and affection.

In the new book The Science of Kissing: What Our Lips Are Telling Us, author Sheril Kirshenbaum cites the work of Rutgers University anthropologist Helen Fisher, who says kissing evolved to fulfill three essential needs: sex drive, romantic love and attachment. Romantic kissing is a part of more than 90% of human cultures, and its role, as Kirshenbaum puts it, is to help us "find partners, commit to one person and keep couples together long enough to have a child." (More on Time.com: Why Women Are Attracted to Guys Who Play Hard to Get)

How? The cascade of biological reactions during a passionate kiss plays a role. Research shows that kissing boosts levels of neurotransmitters like dopamine (which is involved in craving and desire) and serotonin (which elevates mood and can help spark obsessive thoughts about a partner). It also causes a jump in oxytocin, the so-called "love hormone," whose release during orgasm triggers attachment between couples; high levels of it in new parenthood also foster lifelong attachment between mother and child.

"What I found so fascinating is that the chemicals in our bodies are responsible for the so-called symptoms we associate with falling in love," Kirshenbaum says. "I don't think it takes the romance out of the equation, but it gives us a better scientific understanding of how our bodies are behaving." 

Men also use kissing to weed out unsuitable mates — or, more often, to make themselves attractive to desirable ones. "Males tend to kiss as a means of gaining sexual favors, or as a means of affecting reconciliation," says Gallup. "Females kiss more as a mate-assessment device."

Indeed, in studies of smooching styles in men and women, Gallup found that men were more likely to initiate tongue contact, preferring French kissing to closed-mouth pecks. One theory behind that finding is that men have small amounts of testosterone in their saliva. "In saliva exchange — whether that's over weeks or months or even years — trace amounts of testosterone in male saliva could raise testosterone levels in the female and therefore increase her receptivity and her libido," Gallup says. "In long-term relationships, the frequency of kissing is a good barometer of the health and well-being of that particular bond." (More on Time.com: Does Men's 'Bond' with Porn Ruin Them for Real-Life Sex?)

In longer, committed relationships, Gallup found, women also continued to use kissing — to evaluate the state of their partnership. They were also far more likely than men to insist on kissing before, during and after sex.

Those differences are in line with what we know more generally about men and women when it comes to sex and intimacy. "Women put a lot of weight into the act of kissing itself," says Kirshenbaum. For them, it's "nature's ultimate litmus test"— a way to probe the potential of a future partner. And for men? Well, I think we all know what men want.

How to kiss for the first time 2 Boy&Girl

 tips And Trick of respect to French Kiss to a passionate Kissable Lips like you see in the movies And Video, bringing your touch with the lips in contact with someone else's is a sign of affection that most people enjoy.How to kiss for the first time A Boy,Girl,guy,Women,girlfriend,wife But since there are many kinds of kisses to reflect the many levels of affection you can have for someone, it can be nerve-wracking! Don't worry, though--this article will go over several kinds of kisses, as well as when, and how, to give them techniques.

Types of Kisses :

Chocolate Kiss - Best done with a Mars Bar because there is caramel in that too! Just take a bite and French kiss as you would. Very silky smooth type of kiss, and can end up very messy. Extremely pleasurable, and even more funny! Perfect for a first date just after a first kiss, or something to do that's a little bit different. A must for anyone, best style of kissing ever!

Spiderman Kiss - It's just like in the movie. You kiss upside down, taking in both of your lower lips and do all those other kisses listed above.

Lap Kiss - While your partner is laying with his/her head in your lap, lean over and kiss her/him. Your bottom lip will be on your partner's top lip, and vise versa. You can even French kiss while in this position. This kiss is a playful kiss, and it can lead to much more.

Carmex Kiss - If either you or your partner are not carmex junkies, apply a little carmex to your lips and feel the gentle tingle on your lips.

Tongue Ring Kiss - partner has a tongue ring and the two of you are French kissing, mess with his/her tongue ring while kissing and it gives your partner chills and excitement/happiness because a lot of people with tongue rings love that. Or if the two of you have a tongue ring have a tongue ring WAR! What you do is keep his/her tongue away from your tongue ring, while you're messing with their tongue ring

Breath Kiss - In a hot moment - creates major anticipation - barely touch lips with lips slightly parted... then breath your partner's breath... moving heads slowly to experience different sensations... lips touching on and off slightly... it is a very teasing sort of kiss and builds passion tremendously.

chew kiss - Tell your partner to place their tongue deeply into mouth deeply... you VERY GENTLY "chew" on the back part of their tongue... do not suck. This will create a sensation in other places that can be very exciting!

Touch Kiss - You do this after you and your partner have Frenched or really kissed alot. What you do is just simply touch tongues - like the tip of your tongue. You may want to move it around but you don't have to. You don't do it inside your mouth you do it out in the open.

Underwater Kiss - Have your partner hold their breath underwater and when he or she taps you give them air.

Moving Kiss - Make sure a bed or couch or chair is behind your partner and when French kissing gently push your partner onto the chair or whatever is behind them. Very good for serious couples or just beginners.

Chin Kiss - Hold your partner's chin with your middle, index, and thumb and tilt their head in the right direction. Continue to hold it as you kiss.

Suck Kissing - This can be a very seductive type of kiss. Instead of French Kissing with your mouth open, while your partner's lips are parted suck on their top our bottom lip with your own, just for a second or two. Then go back to another type of kiss or try the other lip.

Nip Kissing - This type of kiss has to be done carefully, but when done correctly can create a wonderful effect on your partner. While suck kissing, gently bite their lip, but be VERY gentle so as not to hurt your partner. This kiss should only be done with someone that you've kissed a few times before, otherwise you may shock your partner.

Surprise Kissing - This type of kiss is done when your partner is lying down on a sofa or the ground, either asleep or just lying with their eyes closed. Quietly approach your partner and place a small, very gentle kiss on their lips. Intensify the kiss until your partner opens their eyes or awakens.

Butterfly Kissing - Put your eye really close to your partner's cheek and flutter your lashes upon their skin. You can also do this on their lips.

Tongue Sucking - When you have the chance to get really deep into your partners mouth, suck on their tongue as far as you can. Don't suck to hard, you don't want to hurt your partner. Otherwise it's very pleasing!

Sigh Kiss - When you first start kissing your partner gently lick their lips with the tip of your tongue. Then blow or sigh into their lips, causing a tingling feeling that will intensify your kiss for sure.

Pop Kiss - Use pop-rocks, great fun. You've heard of fireworks, this is an explosion!

Tongue Tease - When you're French kissing, if/when you pull back, and before your mouths meet again, you can flick your tongue up and down quickly against the other person who is doing the same. It's very teasing and fun to see how long it lasts. Its hard to resist going strong after a while of flicking.

You need to shed the good girl tag to win love.

Sugar and spice isn't always nice. In the dating game, just being nice to your man doesn't make him more devoted; at times you need to be the 'bitch' to walk down the Valentine path.

That, in a nutshell, is best-selling author and columnist Sherry Argov's premise of her seminal books Why Men Love Bitches and Why Men Marry Bitches . "Men secretly respect a woman who is strong, has confidence and dreams of her own," says Sherry. "They don't want women who are needy and desperate for approval."

So the key to conduct new-age relationships is: discover the feisty attitude that will turn you into a diva from a doormat," says Sherry.

Why nice girls finish last
Ever wondered why despite putting your best face and foot forward, and treating your dreamboat like a dream, he seems to go for someone smarter, sassier and sexier - aka 'The bitch?' It's possibly because:

- You're making it too obvious that you're looking for a man and your happiness is dependent on that.
- You are unable to be alone.
- You don't want to wait for the right person. You to rush into a situation you wouldn't have otherwise.

Do men like strong women?
The general consensus is that men get intimidated by strong, opinionated women who pose a challenge. But the truth is that any extreme is a turn off. On the contrary, there is nothing more attractive than a woman who has dignity and pride in who she is. So to woo the love of your life, be someone he desires. And he can't desire something that is too easily available. It simply means you must be in control and keep him guessing. Besides, never forget the golden rule of relationships: You don't marry a perfect person. You marry an interesting person.

The 'bitches' don't...
- Call or text him frequently.
- Ask where he is or what he's doing.
- Say 'You don't call me enough,' or, 'You never tell me you love me.' Unpredictability is your asset. Don't let your loved one decode you easily.
- Agree with everything he says. When you never express your opinion, a man starts feeling bored.
- Go looking for him or chase him down at three different places where he said he might be having a drink. To be his 'steady', let him come track you down.
- Get mad when he doesn't call you in four days.
- Rearrange your schedule to spend time with him

The bitches do...
Walk the tightrope between being intimidating and independent by being feminine, yet quietly strong. When you don't make obvious what your strengths and weakness are, your partner won't be able to read you. And when a man can't read a woman fully, he respects her more. A woman with self-control has power and men are turned on by that.

Eliminate the third angle
Worried about finishing second best in the love race? Well, first ensure you are the one he's amorous about. If he meets you and is crazy for you, other women should be a non-issue. If you're number two for any length of time, it means there are "too many queens in the castle."

Then, just walk out. Calmly tell him the relationship is "no longer interesting" and wish him luck.

Be happy and positive
Value yourself and your peace of mind. Don't chase happiness outside yourself. Most importantly, try not to give energy to what others think of you; it takes away your power. If you feel good inside, others no longer can control you emotionally. This kind of calm and self-sufficiency is very attractive. Men are used to women who wear their heart on their sleeve and go crazy for the one they can't control.

Pursue your own dreams
Focus on interests outside the relationship. He can know you care, but doesn't need to know how much. Men don't want to compete with other men for your attention, they want to compete for your time because you aren't waiting for him 24x7.

Oral and Anal Sex More Popular

According to a new national study, "experimental" sex is more prevalent among Americans today than it was in 1994.

The Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University surveyed 5,865 people between age 14 and 94 on their sexual activities. The questions used were similar to a 1994 sex study conducted by The University of Chicago. Compared to the figures from the 1994 survey, it was discovered that more men and women are engaging in oral sex with each other, and a "significantly greater" amount of heterosexual anal sex is going on in 2010. These days, 40 percent of women between the ages of 20 and 45 have engaged in anal sex.

Also notable: The Indiana researchers found 41 different ways people have sex with each other. They also reveal that 85 percent of men claim they gave their partner an orgasm during their latest sexual event, whereas only 64 percent of women said they achieved orgasm during their most recent sexual encounter.

The discrepancy in that last factoid is why findings on self-reported sex surveys need to be digested with a bit of skepticism.

Oral sex is stimulating the genitals with the mouth, lips and tongue, by kissing, sucking, licking and nibbling. Many people use oral sex as foreplay or a substitute for intercourse, because it can be just as important and enjoyable as full sex.
If you'd like to try oral sex with your partner, you should make sure you're clean first. Although don't forget that the natural taste and smell of your body might be what attracts them most, so don't cover up with perfumes or deodorant. A good tip if you're concerned about how you or your partner smells, is to suggest taking a shower together.
When you're clean and fresh, you'll feel more comfortable. If you're worried about the way you look, try dimming the lights and lighting candles to boost your confidence.
Remember to try different techniques until you find out what your partner likes. Some people prefer gentle oral sex, with plenty of kisses to the areas around the genitals first, whereas others favour a firmer approach! Just listen and look for signs of appreciation - then you'll know you're doing something right.
A little gentle guidance during sex can go a long way but don't be pushy or upset if they're not ready.

Spend some time and get your lover excited before making the plunge. Tease her whole body before you head south. When having oral sex with your lover, it's not all about her clitoris. Let your mouth and tongue explore her whole labia, clitoris and vagina.
Slowly lick up her thighs and kiss her vulva. Spread her legs and open her lips with your fingers. Take a look. Tell her how beautiful she looks.
Use your tongue. Your whole tongue. Flatten it out. Use just the tip. Lick her like an ice cream cone. Flick it like a butterfly wings. Use gentle strokes. As her excitement builds, add more pressure. Focus more on the area around her clit.

kiss meanings / kisses mean

Kissing allows us to get close enough to a mate to assess essential characteristics about them, none of which we're consciously processing. Part of this information exchange is most likely facilitated by pheromones, chemical signals that are passed between animals to help send messages. We know that animals use pheromones to alert their peers of things like mating, food sources, and danger, and researchers hypothesize that pheromones can play a role in human behavior as well. Although the vomeronasal organs, which are responsible for pheromone detection and brain function in animals, are thought to be vestigial and inactive in humans, research indicates we do communicate with chemicals.
















kiss
Philematologists, the scientists who study kissing, aren't exactly sure why humans started locking lips in the first place. The most likely theory is that it stems from primate mothers passing along chewed food to their toothless babies. The lip-to-lip contact may have been passed on through evolution, not only as a necessary means of survival, but also as a general way to promote social bonding and as an expression of love.


















But something's obviously happened to kissing since the time of the chewed-food pass. Now, it's believed that kissing helps transfer critical information, rather than just meat bits. The kissing we associate with romantic courtship may help us to choose a good mate, send chemical signals, and foster long-term relationships. All of this is important in evolution's ultimate goal—successful procreation.

Red wine boosts sexual desire in women

Move over sex toys and tantric art, a glass or two of red wine are more than enough to increase a woman's libido, say researchers.

Italian doctors, who carried out the study, claim that chemical compounds found in the red wine may boost sexual functioning by increasing blood flow to key areas of the body, The Telegraph reported.

To reach the conclusion, doctors at the University of Florence recruited 800 women aged 18 to 50. None of the women had ever reported a sexual health problem.

The volunteers were split into three groups - those who regularly consumed one or two glasses of red wine a day, those who consumed less than one glass a day of any sort of wine or other alcohol, and those who were teetotal.

In order to avoid the possible confounding effects of drunkenness, females who drank more than two glasses a day were excluded from the study.

The participants finished a questionnaire, the Female Sexual Function Index. It included 19 questions with a total score range between two and 36, with higher scores meaning better functioning.

Overall the red wine drinkers scored an average of 27.3 points, compared to 25.9 for the less-frequent tipplers and 24.4 for the non-drinkers.

From analysis, it was found that levels of sexual desire were higher in women who were moderate drinkers of red wine than in their counterparts who preferred other alcoholic drinks, or were teetotal.

The researchers said: "While this finding needs to be interpreted with some caution, it nevertheless suggests a potential relationship between red wine consumption and better sexuality."

The study has been published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine

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