Featured: How date worthy are you? Jul 15, 2011 - 03:03 PM
Do your first dates hardly ever materialise to something more and you just can't seem to pin down why is it happening? Ramya Iyer talks to relationship experts to help you figure if you are losing your date-worthiness
Do your first dates hardly ever materialise to something more and you just can't seem to pin down why is it happening? Ramya Iyer talks to relationship experts to help you figure if you are losing your date-worthiness
The first dates are always about frivolous fun! So for starters, if you are into a new relationship, getting all soppy and talking about your ex, gives an impression that you are still into them. "Nobody likes to be the rebound partner, as it's the worst way to start a new relation," recommends Dr Anjali Chhabria, Consultant and psychiatrist, Mind Temple. So, drop the emotional baggage in the flanking bin and move on.
Instant revelations
Do you like to reveal all on the first date itself? Men like women with a dash of mystery. The more mysterious you are, the more your partner would like to know about you. If you tell all on the first date itself, the thrill and excitement of knowing you more goes missing and so does his incentive of meeting you next.
Cribbing non-stop
Your opinions on world issues are impressive but if you are a perennial ranter about everything, right from your job to your life to the weather, and that too on your first date, it is a big turn-off. "No one likes to be around people if they crib non-stop about everything and everybody," says Dr Chhabria. Learn to look at the brighter side of things and you will attract people.
A clinging vine
Are you giving signals on the first date itself that you're desperately looking for an emotional anchor? Well, don't as he may read it and feel too weighed down. "Men today prefer women who are independent and if you appear to be too clingy or needy, either emotionally or otherwise, he is most likely to give you a skip," recommends Dr Rashmi Joshi, Counselling Psychologist and Clinical Hypnotherapist, Psychological Aura.
Nosy overdrive
Getting to know the person on your first date is important. But throwing in a million of questions is an invasion of privacy. It projects you as the irritating, prying kinds and can make your date feel really uncomfortable. As the adage goes, only fools rush in, so take your time and your partner will talk about it sooner or later.
"It is essential that you assess and check on these vital key aspects to ascertain your psychological wellbeing, from time to time," suggests Dr Rashmi. After all, the health of your relationship will depend on the wellbeing of your mind.
Psychological Aura (Dr. Rashmi Joshi)
Email - dr.rashmi@psychologicalaura.com or info@psychologicalaura.com
